The Modern Groom’s Checklist: 30 Things You’re Responsible for (Yes, Really)
Long gone are the days of “just show up in a tux.” Today’s groom is a co-planner, experience curator, and all-around legend in the making.
If you want to be more helpful than helpless — and actually enjoy the ride — this list is for you.
💍 Wedding Planning Responsibilities
Propose (obviously).
Set a budget with your partner.
Start your guest list. Family, friends, who not to invite — start those convos.
Visit venues together.
Book your vendors — or help research and interview them. (Pro tip: don’t ghost your planner.)
Handle the bar, bourbon, or signature drinks.
Secure accommodations for your out-of-town guests.
Coordinate your guys’ tux or suit rentals.
Choose gifts for your groomsmen. (And no, a flask isn’t enough anymore.)
Help design your wedding website. Link it. Proof it. Own it.
✍️ Personal Touches That Matter
Write your vows. And mean them. (AI vows are not it.)
Write a letter to your bride. Delivered on the wedding morning.
Write a letter or toast to your groomsmen. Trust us — this trend is exploding.
Make a playlist for the morning-of. Good vibes only.
Create your own "getting ready" schedule. (Shave, haircut, bourbon, repeat.)
🎩 Grooming + Appearance
Book your wedding haircut (and trial cut).
Start a skincare routine.
Tidy up your beard or go clean.
Get a manicure. Yup, your hands will be photographed.
Pack your day-of emergency kit: deodorant, cologne, mints, safety pins, and maybe Advil.
🕺 Groomsmen Coordination
Plan the bachelor party. Or assign a trusted best man to run point.
Check in with the guys about attire, travel, and timelines.
Make sure they all know where to be and when.
Thank them — in writing, with gifts, or both.
🗓️ Week-Of + Wedding Day
Get the marriage license. With proper ID and signatures.
Pack your honeymoon bag.
Set up tip envelopes or Venmo for vendors.
Confirm the wedding day timeline with the planner or coordinator.
Don’t get drunk before the ceremony. (You’d be surprised how often this happens.)
Soak it in. Be present. Say “I love you” more than once.
🎁 Bonus Tip:
If you want your morning-of to feel iconic, consider booking an on-site groomsmen experience like Doorbell Barbers — think fresh cuts, hot towel shaves, bourbon, custom music, and a moment with your guys you’ll never forget.
📲 Save This Checklist, Share It With Your Crew, and Own Your Role.
Because your future spouse deserves a partner who shows up, not just stands up.